Healing Love Counseling
Meet Becky
I am a counseling psychologist, specialized in sex therapy and couples counseling. I help my clients emotionally reconnect, overcome sexual shame, navigate conflict, and have a greater sense of empowerment and connections in their lives and relationships. My approach is grounded in empathy, respect, and collaborative engagement.
I have extensive personal and professional experience with the ethical non-monogamy, and LGTBQ+ communities. I am informed by psychodynamic, trauma-informed, and somatic approaches, and use a holistic, evidenced based interventions.
Mission
Create a safe and nurturing space to support you in growing into the most empowered and fulfilled version of yourself.
Provide psychological counseling to individuals and couples in the Netherlands and abroad, both in-person and online
Help clients overcome challenges related to intimacy, communication issues, sexual mismatches, and emotional connection.
Offer a safe and confidential environment where you can unpack internalized shame around sexuality, recover from infidelity, explore low desire or libido mismatch, and cultivate emotional intimacy.
Utilize evidence-based approaches such as body-focused, mindfulness techniques. Gottman Institute informed interventions to address your unique needs.
You’re in the right place
You would like to improve your communication and satisfaction in relationships, romantic or otherwise.
You want to understand and work through issues or goals around sex, desire, and intimacy.
You want mindfulness techniques and skills that can help you stay in the present and sit with the feelings and sensations attached to strong emotions.
You are ready to do the work it takes to accomplish your goals.
What do you need help with?
Emotional Reconnection
When you're feeling emotionally disconnected from your partner, I can offer tools to rebuild emotional attunement, foster communication and connection, and give tools to navigate relationship conflict
Overcoming Sexual Shame
Maybe you feel embarrassed or ashamed of your desires or sexuality. We can move through that and move to a place of self-love and acceptance
Finding Sexual Compatibility
Differences in what arouses you or mismatch in sexual frequency. I will help you find the common ground and learn to speak each other's sexual languages
Recovering from Betrayal
Rebuilding trust and moving to a place of love and understanding after broken relationship agreements
Conscious Uncoupling
Breakups can be incredibly painful and sometimes take years of recovery. I can help you transitioning from one kind of relationship to another in a way that will honor the growth that you’ve experienced together and make the next steps smoother and more collaborative
Navigating Ethical Non-monogamy
When there is a mismatch in desires around relationship design, polyamory, open relationship, swinging, etc. I am personally and professionally experienced with ethical non-monogamy and can help navigate this discussion. I am also happy to work with poly couples, polycules, V-hinges, etc. who are wanting to discuss other topics.
Specialized in Sex Therapy
with an emphasis on queer, kinky, and polyamorous identities
Sexuality and relationships are as unique as the individuals who navigate them. Here, we celebrate that diversity and provide a safe, non-judgmental space to explore your needs, desires, and challenges. Whether you're queer, kinky, polyamorous, or a combination of all three, you deserve support from someone who truly gets it.
I understand the complexities of alternative relationship structures, the beauty of consensual kink, and the rich spectrum of queer experiences. Together, we'll work to strengthen your connections, embrace your authentic self, and cultivate a fulfilling and empowered intimate life.
Your story matters here—without shame, without stigma, and with a lot of care. Let’s create a space where you can thrive.
For individuals wanting to explore and unpack their sexuality in a safe and judgement free zone. Let go of shame and step into celebration of your sexuality
For couples, who want to build emotional reconnection, heal old wounds, build or rebuild trust, navigate ethical non-monogamy, or rekindle desire.
For desire-mismatched couples who want to rebuild their sexual connection and communication, in a group therapy setting. The next group starts in January 2025!
Gottman Method Couples Therapy
Every couple can develop a closer, more satisfying connection. Based on evidence-based techniques meant to build trust, honest communication, and emotional connection, our approach uses the well-known Gottman Method Couples Therapy.
Our sessions provide couples with a secure environment to investigate their particular dynamics, whether they are working through conflict management, emotional reconnection, rediscovering physical intimacy, or recovery from betrayal.
Based in The Hague, our treatment is designed for English-speaking clients looking for efficient direction and support for their relationship path. This is perfect fit for internationals and expats seeking support from a cultural competent psychologist. We know how important it is to take care of relationship issues in a familiar and comfortable language so that couples may freely and without restrictions express themselves.
We use the Gottman Method, an evidence-based intervention, to resolve relationship struggles. We keep using it because it works!
